Posted by Medusa on February 8, 2004, at 7:08:35
In reply to Re: table manners ... obsession?, posted by Rach on February 8, 2004, at 6:36:16
> I would make enough food for our dinner and a few days worth of lunch to take to work. He would eat the entire amount in one sitting.
>Rach, you make this almost funny!
I had several never-got-serious boyfriends who thought they had to consume everything I'd cooked. Problem is, like you, I was planning on leftovers. They'd finish everything - and one would complain that I'd made "too much".
(Screaming and tearing hair out here ... it was never funny when it happened, I was always strained for time and money and these guys just trod all over both. I've learned now to defend my territory better, but where do people get the idea they can behave like this?)
I guess in dating around some, I got better at picking up on early food-related signals that things would not work and should not be attempted. One guy chopped up all of his food into smaller-than-bite-size pieces before beginning to eat. The same guy asked me to picnic with him in a park, but refused to do pot-luck - he vehemently insisted that we each bring our own. Was he potty-trained with a gun to his head?
> to prevent the swallowing of air.WOW, gotta remember this one ...
> He never knew how to savour food. Food was to be bolted, not enjoyed. Chocolate would be swallowed whole. I attempted to teach him how to let things 'melt in his mouth'. He never got it. A shovel wouldn't have been enough volume wise and a motorised arm couldn't have gotten the food in fast enough.
>I'm not trimming the above, because it expresses the phenomenon so well. Reading it, I laugh, cringe, and am sad all at once.
> like stiff cos or something. Then, I suppose I have to admit, I've used the knife to cut. Oh dear! :)
>I wonder if it's preferable to use the fork to cut this? Maybe Nikki'll tell us?
Rach, good for you for breaking up with the boor. (Boar?)
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