Posted by henrietta on January 21, 2004, at 19:07:41
In reply to (((Jai))), posted by Karen_kay on January 21, 2004, at 14:44:09
me, too.(((jai))) and thanks, karen, for your
compassion. there's some history here that I think isn't being fully considered. it started, it seems to me, very innnocently and affectionately on jai's part. yes, maybe she didn't quite get it fast enough, and yes, i cringed for her vulnerability, her willingness to put herself out there so nakedly, her persistence~~~but it wasn't malicious, it was just an excess of affection! maybe unwanted affection, but still, affection! much worse has been done, here and in the big world, the real world, the historical world, with less vituperative response. and yes, perhaps she responded to that response out of hurt and pain, and perhaps she didn't make the best response. but can't we agree that neither of these "sides" is evil, criminal, or attack-worthy? two people with complicated histories, personalities, and needs miscommunicated. can't we please wish them both serenity and forgiveness (of self and others),and let it go? i, for one, need a little of jai's vulnerability, her willingness to expose herself to rejection and hurt. i'm way too careful about whom I allow to hurt me, and I'm a much more tight-donkeyed human because of my carefulness of self. And i'm pretty sure I'm not as evolved as I could be because of the care I take to feel safe. So, I salute you, Jai! Yours is a brave spirit. I'm sorry you've been hurt, and I wish both you and Larry growth, love, acceptance.
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