Posted by deirdrehbrt on January 20, 2004, at 17:07:52
In reply to Re: In Love and War ... why ?, posted by gardenergirl on January 20, 2004, at 9:02:19
John,
Reading what I wrote last night, I find that I wasn't very clear. What I meant about hollywood is that the EXPERIENCES that the movie gives us aren't our experiences. The memories that they bring to mind most definitely are ours. What we can do though is to remember as we're watching the movie, and it is triggering us, is to try to remember that the movie isn't our life.
My problem with movies and triggers is that I'll get triggered, and then sucked into the movie deeper and deeper, until I feel like it's happening to me. I need to break the cycle. I need to separate my feelings from the ones on the screen, and to remind myself, for example in Terms of Endearment, that I'm not the mother saying good-bye for the last time. If I don't disconnect, I'll be in bad shape for hours after the movie is over.
I hope that this clears up what I wanted to say.
Dee.
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