Posted by Dinah on January 9, 2004, at 9:56:31
In reply to Re: Dinah to the rescue! » Dinah, posted by Karen_kay on January 9, 2004, at 0:54:35
That wsan't what I ripped into him about, actually. It was about money. We had already been arguing about the timing of his telling me he was angry and saying I was annoying. I thought that given how well he knows me, the timing of how he did that was close to sadistic. He claimed ignorance.
Then one of the EMDR therapists wants him to be there at the first EMDR session, in case something went bad. I told her he probably wouldn't be interested, but I asked him anyway, and he said it would be fine as long as I paid him. Well, duh. I know he wouldn't show up without money. Then he tells me he'd also charge me for the travel time from his office to hers. Now her office is easily within five miles from our homes (we live within a few blocks from each other). There's no reason when we jointly scheduled the appointment, he couldn't do it at a time that was convenient for him. Moreover, he claims an auxiliary office about three blocks from her office.
I accepted it quietly at the time, but then called back later. Told him I paid him a ridiculous amount of money each year for close to nine years, his fee was higher than PhD psychologists in our area, one and a half times what he gets from his insurance clients (which he has told me make up the majority of his practice), he doesn't give me quantity discount, I have to drive to the inconvenient location where he moved his office and pay another $500 or $600 in parking fees which he doesn't validate. I told him that my employers wouldn't *dream* of trying to squeeze the last nickel under those circumstances, and would consider the travel time to be a small cost for maintaining goodwill. And that he didn't need to call back. Slam the phone.
But he did call back and apologize. He said he had been caught off guard and hadn't thought it through and that even before I called he had decided he wouldn't charge the travel time. So another anger short circuited by decent behavior by him.
I guess I do have a lot of pent up anger. :(
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