Posted by Psychopoppy on January 9, 2004, at 2:31:25
In reply to Re: How do I tell my pdoc that he sucks !?!? » Psychopoppy, posted by Poet on January 7, 2004, at 12:16:40
> Hi,
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> I don't have any experience with pdocs (I see a family medicine doc for meds) but I told the head of dermatology at a medical college to go back to school after submitting me to multiple patch tests for an allergy I didn't have.
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> Maybe your pdoc thinks that meds should be able to do it all for you, and suggests therapy, but doesn't believe in it himself, so he conveniently forgets to set you up?
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> I would politely ask your pdoc why says he can set you up in therapy, but doesn't do it. If you feel aggressive ask him if he'd set it up while you're there, because you're tired of reminding him each time you see him. I'm curious as to what his answer is.
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> Poet
That thought did occur to me as well, that he might not be high on psychotherapy and hence just doesn't feel the need to pursue that avenue.
Well, I have to admit that I personally have not pushed that subject with him either, mainly because I've heard from other friends who saw therapists at the same hospital that they tend to be mostly CBT (cognitive-behavioral therapy) types and I know already from a couple of experiences that CBT ain't my cup o'tea. Of course, if my pdoc were interested at all then we could have talked about all of this and maybe he could have directed me towards someone who is more multi-approach than one or the other. And therein lies his incompetence.I will have to figure out a good way of bringing all of this up with him.
I've had awful experiences in the past with a first-rate a**hole psychiatrist-psychoanalyst-in-one and didnt have too much trouble telling him what I thought of him. As empowering as it sounds now, I came away from that meeting feeling very shaken-up, throttled and as if I'd been hit by a 100-ton-truck. A close friend said to me that I was actually hit by a truck, just an invisible kind, the kind that leaves psychological wounds rather than physical ones. Therapists and analysts sometimes have no clue or have forgotten what they're dealing with. They dont always realize the effort and intensity it takes for a person to come in to a strange room, render themselves completely vulnerable and unravel their most intimate thoughts, feelings and inner workings to a total stranger. And by not treating them as they should, ie. with delicacy and care, they can inflict abuse in ways that are cryptic and deep.
In any case, I hope that more people can stand up to them and not be afraid of telling them about their shortcomings and reminding them of their responsibilities.
As far as my pdoc is concerned, I guess I have to be courageous enough to ask for what should be rightfully mine ....ie. good medical advice and patient care.
Wish me luck
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