Posted by gabbix2 on December 22, 2003, at 15:13:17
In reply to Jai, posted by Karen_kay on December 22, 2003, at 9:29:30
> <The way if appears to me is he can give advice but he but he can't take it. It's a one way interaction. He can be blunt but I have to be very careful and sweet. I can't be blunt as well. I gave him advice when he was not asking for it. Just like he did for Tabitha. It's okay for him and not for me?I don't know how *anyone* was to know whether or not Tabitha was asking for advice in that situation. If I had posted the same thing, I would have appreciated honest feedback. People are different. I don't think any poster has a way of knowing that.
This has gone far beyond what Tabitha orignally posted though which is why I feel I have to say something
I would definitely feel judged if someone told me I was lacking "empathy" or "respect"--ESPECIALLY when they were in reference to words that I did not say, but judgements against an intention someone had decided for me.
>If you are looking for an honest answer, ask Larry. If you are looking for support, ask someone else
Those two are not mutually exclusive, actually in my opinion often go together quite nicely;
I think many of the people who have sought Larry out for support in the time he's been here would disagree, all you need to do is look at the boards.
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