Posted by sarita0001 on December 9, 2003, at 15:49:28
In reply to This is a Rant about the Family, posted by Susan J on December 8, 2003, at 9:30:19
Hi,
That sounds so much like my mom it's scary! I think some mothers don't know what to do when their kids are depressed or have other emotional problems. In my case and maybe in yours, mom stays away from it because she thinks it might be her fault or something she did when i was younger. I've had depression/anxiety diagnosed since I was 13(now I am 25) and started meds at 17. I don't know if you've heard that saying about how when kids get older they blame their parents for everything. I think some parents are afraid of that so they don't even want to go there. And if your mother has never dealt with her own issues then she'll have no clue where to start with yours. And it could be other reasons like they don't want to tell you the wrong thing- so they don't say anything at all and silently hope that someone else can help you with it(drs, friends, etc). ADD and dyslexia are less stigmatizing than depression so it might be easier for your mom to address that.
After I was diagnosed bipolar, my parents really stayed away from any talk about my mental health and supported me financially with the drs, therapy. My dad never said anything about it- my mom would tell me I didn't need medicine. It would be ok if she said that if she knew what I was going through but she had no idea. She was the one who had a problem with her kid being on meds, that's what I think. I was also out of my house at 17 so I wasnt home during all this time.
Anyways, I hope that helps. Also, anything you know about your mother's relationship with her mother can be helpful in understanding how she gets along with you and these issues.
Sara
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