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Re: loneliness is not a phase

Posted by Searchlight on November 17, 2003, at 16:27:39

In reply to Re: loneliness is not a phase » octopusprime, posted by Wildflower on November 17, 2003, at 15:23:50

Wildflower, Jay, Elle and Octopusprime
I am going through a very, very lonely phase in my life too. I have 6 very close friends (I am truly lucky), but they all live far away. I also have a fantastic and extemely supportive family. Still, I am lonely. It is a kind of lonely that only people with depression (or other) can know. It is a deep, dark feeling that seems to know no relief. I know I have had it almost all my life (even though I have been married twice and have had some very nice long-term boyfriends). I am an only child too, and I think that may compound things for some depressives. I guess I see lonliness as part of our illness (if it's okay to use that term). Getting proper meds, therapy and good support systems in place help combat this. I know for myself, without meds, the true out-going person that I am just doesn't feel her best, so I withdraw. Since I am older and have been dealing with it for so many, many years I have developed a lot of cognitive coping skills and ways of dealing with it (having six close friends is a phenomenal and true gift which could not have happened without therapy and meds),and I'd be happy to talk to anyone about what I have learned on this long and often lonely journey. I am no expert nor am I praising myself in any way, but if I can help someone along the way even just a little, at least I'll know it wasn't all in vain. I know I have learned a lot from others on these boards and, it amazes me to see the wonderful support and resources people have and have chosen to share with others. Hope eveyone is finding at least one positive nugget (if not more) each day. Today, for me, it was talking with my Mom and sharing some things with her that really helped me get some perspective. Also, I played a lot with my 3 loving cats, and that always makes me very happy. And I talked to my closest friend on the phone today- for maybe all of 8 minutes- but it was the contact that made me feel so good! Hope this doesn't sound too preachy or sappy, but lonliness for me has been a very painful part of depression.


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