Posted by Dr. Bob on November 16, 2003, at 6:42:26
In reply to how to free myself from dominating inlaws, posted by Navneeta on November 12, 2003, at 4:35:37
> Hi there! This is my first post and i dont know how exactly this works. but i hope to benefit from this.
> In India, its a common tradition to live in joint families. the daughter-in-law gets married and stays with the inlaws.But,lately,people are moving out and live seperately.and nowadays nobody stays in a joint family. Except me and my husband who live with his parents.and my husband is into the family business.and his parents are so dominating, that they dont like it if i go to work with my husband, or go out for dinners or outings. they wants me to stay at home and cook.And its kinda very difficult to approach my inlaws with any problems.especially my mom in law. who is quite rude and sarcastic all the time.She i s very unpredictable.She keeps taunting and passing rude remarks.BUt, i dont retaliate.my inlaws think that, since my husband is looking after the family business, they can dominate him and his privacy.They dont let him own a property without their consent and even if he does,they throw tantrums and get angry.
> They dont even let us move out to our own place and they start emotionally blackmailing about their ill health.I dont know what to do and how to cope with all this tension.Due to these tensions, iam not able to concieve either, even though iam married for 8 years.I have lost 12kilos within 30 days of my marriage and i still havent put on any even after 8 years. Iam really stressed out.sometimes i feel,iam trapped here and wasting my life.Love, navneeta
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