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Re: So tell me about adult ADD (LONG!)

Posted by cybercafe on November 1, 2003, at 19:50:52

In reply to Re: So tell me about adult ADD (LONG!), posted by puravida on October 25, 2003, at 0:27:26

sorry took so long to reply

> Hi Cybercafe and GG,
>
> I haven't been to Dr. Bob's site in awhile - but had posted late last spring about ADD. I am pretty sure it is what has caused most of my angst/depression the past seven years. It all started when I began my sales career - I ws craving freedom, and like I wanted, I got that low structure, and then I beat myself to death with indecision.

yeah... i was always desperate for more freedom in my jobs........ ummmmmmmm..... have you tried any diagnostic sites for ADHD? or looked at the DSM?



> I used to be very social (as a child, very insecure, clingy - as a young single woman - very social, seeking approval).

i was very much the same


> Now I'm in a very structured job - regular hours, usually one very intellectual thing to concentrate on at a time, few interruptions, and sometimes, mundane tasks (like editing/formatting lots of text)as well.
>
> I have been doing much better on Wellbutrin, and with a job where I can be focused. I find, though, that its my personal life that gets me now - I still have to make decisions there.

ok you're doing better than me :)
i can get bored easily when socialising, but then i tend to do more stimulating things OR direct covnersations more (which is actually quite weird, because i'm a more shy person but... BOREDOm tends to overwhelm my shyness)


> Which is why I write now - typically (maybe)I have used my friends and my social life to distract me from my real goals. Maybe in a way they were like an addiction to food or alcohol - I was liked, needed, busy.
>
> So now I am trying to get my finances and home in order, and my physical health back. I find that it seems I can only (barely) juggle the three - work, my health & exercise, and my home/finances. When I try to fit in my hobbies and social life I feel overwhelmed, resentful, pressured, and even a bit hopeless.
>
> So - my question- since I am used to the definition of depression being "lack of enjoyment of social activities and hobbies" - how do I know if I am A) slipping into, or setting myself up to, slip into depression or B) just keeping my level of energy and stimuation focused on what seems right to me.

i guess you ask yourself if your need for stimulation clearly disrupts your life, puts you at a disadvantage where other people have none ...

can you figure this out?

i definately had the inability to enjoy things without being in a depression .... if there was not sufficient stimulation...

i guess you would really have to go into a lot of detail with someone re: where you see yourself having trouble (and how you feel) and how the average joe handles the situation

i definately spent a lot of time asking people what their feelings/thoughts/attitudes were on X and noticed a big difference to mine

but definately check out the official diagnostic criteria

good luck :)

>
> Can either of you identify?
>
> Now that I think of it, I have so many feelings about other people in my life - everything from wanting absolutely no responsibility or accountability towards them, to wanting to contact each and every one and tell them how much I enjoy them, or at the very least, set something to rest. But, the contacting part sems to always remain on my list, and nags at me, and then I feel guilty.
>
> I'd love to hear back from you if this sounds familiar. I hope that my doc (who does beleive in adult AD) can put me on the new Wellbutrin - I have a problem taking meds 2x a day...
>
> PV
>
>
> > > Sorry, just assumed you were from the US since most people on this board are and you mentioned the NHS. Where you from then?
> >
> > hah, that's okay, we canadians don't mind being mistaken for americans as much as people think ... i just couldn't miss the opportunity to use the term "yank" :)
> >
> > > god, how awful :-( I get really scared sometimes that I actually can't do any job except this one.
> >
> > maybe you can't (highly unlikely... there's part time or university studies?)...... but then there's always medication...so you have lots of options
> >
> > >I was thinking after my last post that being a news reporter is just perfect cos it imposes all this structure on me that I'm totally incapable of imposing on myself, while being highly stimulating. I worked as a secretary for a year tho and I know what you mean about falling asleep.. I used to go into the toilets and sleep for five or ten minute periods curled up on the cubicle floor! not comfortable At All. It's weird though, cos when my
> >
> > yeah that is a horrible experience... when i started taking ritalin i couldn't believe how easy it was .... i mean these sane people just have things so easy you wouldn't believe!
> >
> > sleep helped a lot though when i was undiagnosed
> >
> > >brain was "switched off" by the repetitive work I couldn't function in other ways either, couldn't talk to people to make it less boring, I'd just fall into a zombie state. God, i was miserable.
> >
> > yep...... i am so thankful i finally have a diagnosis... as soon as this AD takes effect i hope to move back to london and make a ton of money
> >
> > > WOULD it be that easy to get disability for ADHD though? Not sure they even recognise it in Britain... but then, you should be able to get it for depression. i did for a year. i was living on
> >
> > yeah they said disability in the UK depends on your ability to work and if you can't work b/c of depression then you are entitledto disability....... plus i have a whole host of disorders, bipolar + anxiety + adhd ...and i could even argue that i havn't been fully diagnosed yet, start blabbing about cortisol and my need to see an endocronologist or sleep apnea and my need to have a sleep study done :)
> > after all the time i've spent on the boards, i'm sure i could BLOW AWAY any interviewer .... usually my first approach is "these meds make me sleep 16 hours a day... -exaggerate horrible side effects- but i don't expect you to believe me.... so if you'd like to try them i could bring them along next visit :) :)"
> >
> > >#45 a week total though cos I hadn't paid any National Insurance at that point (I was 20). In central London. It was a nightmare. I couldn't leave Whitechapel!
> >
> > wow that sounds good.... i used to live in hendon, hoxton and then finsbury park .... i think shopping at iceland? or safeways? i could probably get by on 2 or 3 quid a day worth of food
> >
> >
> > > Anyway, thank you for your kind advice! It was interesting what you said about your problems with work, and definitely rang a bell. I hope things improve for you. Are you on meds for it?
> >
> > yep i'm on ritalin... but i'm not currently working until i find a suitable AD .... which should happen in about 2 hours (going back on parnate) :)
> >
> > PLEASE tell me the IT market in london is good :)
>
>


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