Posted by sfmom on October 30, 2003, at 21:15:27
My daughter and I spent the night at my parents' house last night to give my husband a "night off" from having to take care of her and, basically, me too. This morning while giving my daughter (two years old) breakfast, I asked her to take smaller bites of her toast because she had put a too big piece in her mouth. My dad said that if I didn't stop acting this way around her (anxious) that she was going to end up like me!!! I didn't really say anything in front of my daughter but did tell him that that wasn't what I needed to hear right now. But it just stuck with me and made me feel worse all morning. So I finally called my dad and told him how much what he said hurt me. I told him that I know I'm sick right now and am doing everything I can to get better (meds, individual and group therapy). My biggest fear is not being able to protect my daughter and yes, I am also scared that this "illness" will affect her. To my amazement, he said that he has to call it like he sees it and that I SHOULD worry about passing on my anxiety to Rosalie and that if that's a problem for me, he'll just have to distance himself from us!!!! My parents have been a great help to me but I honestly don't even want to see my dad now. How could someone who loves me be so unsupportive? I know it's not fair to expect him to understand what I'm going through but I do expect a little more than this! Any advice on how to talk to him about this would be appriciated, but really I just need some affirmation and support please.--Lyssa
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