Posted by Susan J on October 27, 2003, at 11:06:18
In reply to Re: Pain, Pain, My World is Pain..... » Susan J, posted by NikkiT2 on October 27, 2003, at 10:48:38
Nikki,
> All I can offer in lots and lots of
>
> *HUGS*<<Thanks. :-)
>> If only our brothers had better taste eh??!
<<You are so right! Sis-in-law came from a very dysfunctional, abusive, alcoholic family, but she seemed to have her head on straight. I'm just coming to understand she has *not a clue* about herself at all, and that is what's causing this flip out, or whatever it is. She has *mother* issues and has now become a mother herself, and everything's rising to the surface. And it's ugly.My whole family would be able to deal with this better if K (sis-in-law) could acknowledge that something is wrong inside and try to get help. We would stand by her 100% of the way. We always have. But how do you help someone or stand by her when she's destroying your family? She's being downright cruel now, playing head games with my brother, who's done nothing but try to ease her into whatever life she wants to lead now.
Fear, depression, anger, desperation, self-hatred, confusion, stupidity. All that I understand.
I don't understand cruelty. I don't know how to stand by someone who's like that....
poster:Susan J
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