Posted by Susan J on October 22, 2003, at 13:21:36
In reply to Re: Sis-in-law is driving me absolutely buggy!, posted by DharmaMama on October 22, 2003, at 13:10:26
Hi,
>>To give you some insight: For some odd reason, I can relate to what I read. I have two girls I absolutely adore. There have been times when I just wanted to leave home.
<<I think a lot of my frustration is that I *know* that whatever she is feeling is absolutely normal and justified. I don't have kids, never have, but just the notion of having them, being entirely responsible for them to the neglect of yourself, is enough to wear me out just thinking about it. But I also think she can get happy and stay in the marriage, and let my nephew keep an intact family. I'm not involved at all, though. Dinah said something about giving lotsa love to my little nephew, that there's not much you can do for adults, but you can help the little kids. And we've all been doing that. We're being very supportive of my brother, too. My sis-in-law has NO ONE, though. Her family's a mess, and she won't even talk to us....>>Not because I did not love my kids. Just because I was at my wits ends.
<<Totally understandable. !!> Maybe with her time away and possibly some family counseling, she will come around. I hope so. That Mama will be in my thoughts.
<<I think that scares me, too. She's done so much wide-spread emotional damage and just about destroyed my brother emotionally, what happens if she *does* realize she could've been happy in the marriage and still been her own human being, etc.? My brother won't go back if his love is killed. I don't know at what point that might occur.It's weird to be really angry at someone, and love her at the same time and want to help. It's just all so sad.
Susan
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