Posted by Emme on October 20, 2003, at 9:53:41
In reply to Re: It's morning again.... » Emme, posted by Penny on October 20, 2003, at 9:19:23
Hi Penny,
> Thinking about you this morning...how are things going today?
Thanks for writing. Today I did not get up crying, so that's a nice plus. We'll see what tomorrow brings. I'm so fatalistic - always waiting for the other shoe. It's possible I may cycle down soon because of the AD I'm using (I was utterly desperate for AD effect). But if tomorrow is oaky then that will be nice too.
> I do hear often about how depression is worse for many folks in the morning - mine tends to get worse late in the day. Always something to look forward to :-b
Biological thing I guess. Poor you. You get up knowing it's going to get worse....
> On another note - is there a reason you feel you have to wait for a husband to have children? I decided a while ago that at some point, married or not, I will have children. Don't know that I will give birth to them - I may adopt - but I will have kids.
Funny you should mention that. I'm leery of being pregnant and alone. The other week I obsessively called adoption agencies because I wondered if my history of mood disorder would put me out of the running to adopt as a single parent. I don't know if I'd have the emotional and physical resources to go it alone. But I really want one. The messages I got were that international was the best way to go, that China was pretty much out because they are very strict, but that it was *possible* to adopt from other countries if your psychiatrist could write a letter of support. So it's not all gloom and doom in that department. I should plan for about a year for the process and about $20K.
One hitch is that you have to be able to name alternate people who would assume raising the child should you die. Makes sense but I honestly don't know anyone I could comfortably ask that of. I have lots of friends but they're overloaded themselves. No real options as far as family members.
But I'll worry about that in a few years. I have a lot of work to do before then. Get a job, save up the money for adoption.... I'm starting from zero.
> However, I do have a friend who didn't meet and marry her hubby until she was 41. Was single up until that point - had a successful career, her own home, and became a foster mother. Then she met her husband and they were married a few months later. Now they are trying for a baby, but have decided (after several rounds with in vitro) that if they can't have one of their own, they will adopt. They just bought a new house and are already decorating the nursery.
> So, 38 is not too late.That's a great story. Thanks for sharing that! Just curious. How did she meet her husband?
Emme
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