Posted by femlite on October 14, 2003, at 8:17:17
In reply to Re: Tired of Chasing Geese, posted by MamaB on October 14, 2003, at 7:20:03
You are very kind and I hate to sound like such a naysayer to someone so helpful, but Im afraid the therapsit route hasnt been very helpful yet.
Pdoc #2 SENT me to a Phd therapist because I was too much trouble for her to dx. When I got to said Phd therapists I was given a 500 question form to fill out. 2 days later I dropped off the form for the therapist to evaluate. The next day when I returned for my dx, he said, and I quote "These answers sound like there coming from a person who is REALLy crying out for help" .....WHAT? I thought thats his dx? Does he really think this is some great revealation? $#^%&^*crimeny*&%&(*)#@^#
Then he proceeds to tell me that he doesnt relly think meds are the answers to any ones problems.
(Thanks sherlock)
I felt so vunerable and desperate for help that he suckered me into 2 more visits, you know asking me questions about my family, childhood, husband...I ramble on for an hour and realize Im leaving without a dx again.
I feel like such an idiot
Last time after 40 min. I finally remembered to explain to him that my pdoc sent me to him for a dx and he still hasnt given me one. So he says "well we only have 5 min. left and you cant expect me to start explaining it now"
SOOOOOOOO.....tomorrow is the big day, my next appointment with him. Pray or think me some good vibes okay? That Ill stick to my guns.I really have little hope that I will recieve a satisfactory reply. I feel hes been completly dishonest, dragging this out to fulfill his own agenda, (in my best interest of course, because I clearly need help and I may have a compliance issue...) yada yada yada
Ive asked him about pdocs in our area. He doesnt recomend any of them. Thats what he told me.
Hes the 3rd therapist ive been to.
Ill stop ranting now. Your advise is solid, Im just chalking it up to my ongoing bad doctor karma.
I believe your idea is right but
The only other option I have is driving to the nearest major metropolis, 1 1/2 hours away. I dont see how I can manage to find a good pdoc or therapist and drive that distance very often.
But somehow I will.
Thanks for the pep talk. Im not a quitter but it helps to have pat on the back when you feel youve been sideswiped.
> femlite
> As one who has been on both sides of the situation let me at least say this. My basic suggestion: STAND FIRM,BE POLITE, DON'T LEAVE UNTIL YOU ARE SATISFIED. What you are facing now is the some extent a product of that charming inovation known as "managed care." I strongly recommend that you get a good therapist (not an MD psychiatrist) - best is probably a PhD or PsyD psychologist. HE/she is qualified to diagnose. They in turn (if they are worth their salt)will usually know a reliable MD/ psychiatrist who can prescribe for you with the psychologhts' recommendation while you are in therapy.
> I don't have all of the answers, but this seems to work best -- it has for me and others that I know and is what those of us "in the business" find the easiest to work with.
> Now days MD/Psychiatrists have little time to do more than prescribe -- sad though it may be.
> Let me know how this works out for you.
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