Posted by octopusprime on September 23, 2003, at 11:18:02
In reply to Re: Job fell through, posted by kara lynne on September 23, 2003, at 2:41:35
oh kara
boy oh boy do i know how it feels
the hard part is, the people you talked to probably CAN see a way you can benefit them. otherwise you wouldn't be in the situation you're in now. they can see that you are smart and capable. but you just don't meet some arbitrary criteria set forth for the job, criteria that probably doesn't belong in the first place.
oh people are so arbitrary when they're hiring for jobs. the "fit" that fallsfall talks about is such an ambiguous concept. and if heaven forbid i ever found out that i didn't get a job because i organized the money and cards, then folded the board into a "V" and dumped the rest into the box, i would be devastated. i feel i've been judged by criteria that were similarly arbitrary before, and it was *really* hard to accept. of course, not getting those jobs worked out for the best in the long run, but it's so hard to see the long run for the short run when you're depressed.
i guess the hard part is learning not to idealize certain jobs.
and learning not to expect failure. it's hard to smile and go on interview after interview. "you show promise". "we like you and you can do the job, but guy X has more experience, so we're hiring him". "why are you here and not at grad school?". "i suppose you want $100k a year". "come back with a few more years in the field". BLECH!
ok that's my rant. it's hard to keep trying. definitely give yourself a break. i hear ya about wishing there was somebody there with you - is there a friend that won't stand you up that you can call?
be strong kara lynne. you'll make it yet.
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