Posted by yesac on July 30, 2003, at 11:29:02
In reply to Re: and still embarrassed. » kara lynne, posted by Phil on July 27, 2003, at 12:18:03
> Failure is good but doesn't feel good when it happens. Unless you build skyscrapers, failure teaches wisdom and empathy and moves you along to a better place.
I agree (at times). I once had a therapist (who I did not really like by the way, but she did say some things that stuck with me)... anyways... she said that there really isn't "failure" just learning what doesn't work. I think that's very hard to accept, but I try to think about it that way if I feel that I've failed. It's like making an important decision. I always feel very torn over my choices, but eventually have to pick one. And I'm always afraid it's the "wrong one". But I had another therapist who said that there are not many things that can't be undone, and if you feel that you've made the wrong choice, you can usually go back (I'm not sure really how true that is though - lots of things you can't go back). But anyways, the point is that in doing something wrong or making the wrong decision, instead of failing you have learned something, learned that it isn't right for you or that your studying technique isn't working, or whatever it may be.
Just some things to think about.
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