Posted by Snoozy on June 22, 2003, at 23:30:43
In reply to Re: Stupid anger » Snoozy, posted by yesac on June 22, 2003, at 12:36:15
I'm one of those people always on time, so I've had many years of experience with waiting for others lol. You'd think I'd be better at it by now!
> I feel exactly the same way about waiting for people, even if we have tons of time. I get SO frustrated and pissed off. But it does seem to really depend on my current mood. Sometimes I can be very patient. It depends on circumstances.
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> But, yeah, I think it's worse when things are out of my control - like waiting in line for a slow cashier, getting stuck in traffic or behind slow drivers, waiting for a friend to show up, when the water won't boil fast enough, when none of the radio stations are playing a decent song.... I can stand it more when it is my own fault.
>When I find myself swearing at the microwave for taking so long, I really start to worry about myself!
> I also know that a lot of my frustration and anger is basically due to my repression of it. I often don't say anything when I am annoyed or pissed off, and therefore just surpress the feelings and they build up more and more.
I hardly ever say anything when I'm angry either. For a lot of the things that get me mad, I realize that it's ridiculous to be upset about them. I'm not good at expressing anger in situations where it is very legitimate, and I would hate to admit to being so overwrought about having to wait 5 minutes for someone. I think I have a tendency to have a passive aggressive response to this sometimes, and I really try to keep that in check. I keep repeating to myself, over and over, let it go let it go let it go.
I think it's also related to my depression. Sort of like, geez it's bad enough I have to be alive but to have to stand around waiting too - come on!! Impeccable reasoning I know ;)
If anyone has found a technique that helps with this sort of thing, I'd love to hear about it.
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