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Re: Agh I can't do it » lostsailor

Posted by Dinah on June 21, 2003, at 2:02:38

In reply to Re: Agh I can't do it.---dianha, posted by lostsailor on June 20, 2003, at 22:24:30

Tony,

I'm not really sure what you mean, because I'm still confused by all of this. I know what you mean about changing names though. If I can't be me, what difference would it make. And if I am me, people would guess.

But it seems like there is a huge rash of name changes lately, so anytime anyone comes to the board and starts posting and seems familiar with the people here, I feel suspicious that they are someone I know. And that's a nasty feeling. It keeps me from posting to people that I'm sure are perfectly innocent. It makes me feel like I need to question everything. It makes me start seeing relationships everywhere, even where they might not exist.

I'm glad you had someone you could email for the answers. A lot of people here, myself included, don't. And we feel like we've stumbled onto something that we shouldn't. I don't know who A Little Sphinx is. I just had the feeling that she/he was someone else. A crazymaking feeling.

And that's not the only posting name change lately. And I'm not talking about those like Slinky or Gracie who've been open about it. In one instance, it's pretty clear from the posting style who the poster used to be. So what do I do then? If I continue to post to that person with my relationship with that person in mind, I'm afraid of letting the cat out of the bag, plus I feel like I'm colluding in deceiving (however innocently) others on the board who might not have caught on. Yet it is virtually impossible to treat this person as a stranger without feeling like I'm playing games. So I feel like I can't post more than single lines to this poster. It'll take a long time for me to feel trust again and be able to post without a lot of effort to this person again.

Their right? Sure, as long as they don't post under two names at once. But it still feels like a type of gameplaying I don't like to play.

Tony, I have supported you and been supported by you in the past. But these cryptic posts upset me. You have every right to support anyone in any way you deem fit. I might suggest that if you have off board contact with someone, that private knowledge might best be shared off board. But that's just me. You're free to do as you wish.

But you, and others, have to expect that if others feel excluded, that if others feel that games are being played that they are being not only excluded from, but having that exclusion rubbed in their faces, it might have an affect on how others want to relate to those they feel are playing those games. And if that sounds convoluted I'm sorry, but I don't want to get into naming names or accusing anyone.

That's the other side of rights. Responsibilities and taking the consequences.

Yours fondly, but with confusion and distress,

Dinah

 

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