Posted by Greg on June 3, 2003, at 17:28:51
In reply to Re: Alii, posted by paxvox on June 2, 2003, at 18:56:41
Hey Pax,
I hope she never has to ask that question either, it seems like too many kids have to. Mine was a little too young to have to go thru that, and by the time she was old enough to understand, my ex and I had agreed to get along so that she would have a stable environment with both parents around. I hope your daughter is spared all that, I truly do.Toxic is such a good desciption of what you’re going thru. It makes you hurt, turns that hurt into to anger, and then eventually ever the most rational person will lash out. Toxic. Yeah. But you have to remember one thing, and this is just my opinion FWIW. Your mind is on the right track here. As much as you love your wife, as passionately and deeply as you care (and I know you do), you can’t fix her. You can support her, go to counseling sessions, do all the right things Pax, but she has to want to things to work, to be better, or it’s all wasted space.
As far as her not feeling close to you, you should take that personally, so would I. Just don’t take responsibility for it. That’s her stuff, not yours.
I don’t know Pax, it may not feel like it right now, but it sounds like YOU need some space and some peace of mind. Easier said than done, huh? Just a thought...
Keeping you in my thoughts,
Greg
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