Posted by cybercafe on May 27, 2003, at 16:31:30
In reply to Re: Depressed people don't smile » cybercafe, posted by Greg on May 27, 2003, at 7:36:01
> Oh my Lord, what a load of horse crap! We depressives are very well versed in disguising our moods. Whether it be to our employer or co-workers, neighbors, friends, family members, we can always put on a smile. Sometimes they're even
Yes! people are always telling me to smile more.. and i'm always trying to force it
>real. It's not impossible for us to find things to smile about. We're depressed, not dead. My spirits used to pick up all the time when I knew I was going to see my therapist because I knew I would always feel better after my sessions with him. I often smiled at him, and laughed too. But he never doubted that the issues I have were real.
Thanks bro :) I really needed to hear that. My time with my pdoc is the happiest time of the week. I'm glad to know that's somewhat normal :)
> I don't know where this doc of yours received his training, but I find it hard to believe that this is something that was taught. As Shar said, is this person new to the profession and very young? And as Dinah said, you should get a second opinion. I can't help but think that there's far more to this than what's been told to you. I would ask your doc to be more forthcoming with you. I mean, it's too ignorant a statement to even think about standing on it's own.
I think my doc is one of the best out there. But I also have come to realize these guys are just too bloody busy .. especially when it comes to us complicated cases (anxiety + ADHD + bipolar).
Ummm... he DID give me the antidepressant ...... but it took 4 months of NEEDLESS SUFFERING to get it.
The thing is............. for 4 months he never mentioned "i'm not giving it to you cuz you are smiling" but instead came up with a bullshit medical reason why I couldn't take it. It was only after 4 months that the real reason slipped out.
I always tried to be the best patient I could be (low self-esteem again) and was totally honest with my doc (low self-esteem again) I don't know why he felt he had to lie to me?????
I mean if he had been honest about why he wasn't giving me the med I could have given him the reasons why I thought i needed it ... like I could have filled out a HAMD or a GAF or document my symptoms .. which in my opinion were VERY SERIOUS and would clearly indicate to any doc who is interested in open and free discussion .. honesty.. that i am in desperate need of an AD.
For god sakes i have been on and off them enough to know what feeling normal feels like and what feeling depressed feels like.Yeah it's cool to say "you're not depressed because you're smiling" but it's not cool to make up some bullshit medical excuse because it's easier than an open dialogue ...
> Good luck and let us know what happens.Uh.... from now on I treat myself with visits to doctors for consultation purposes only ...
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