Posted by paxvox on March 24, 2003, at 19:00:53
In reply to Covering up bad SI scars - Dermablend??, posted by mcd on March 23, 2003, at 21:48:23
I have not read the other posts regarding your post, so if I repeat something someone else has said, I'm sorry. OK. I don't know if you have considered all the options here. True, there are methods to cover your scars (at least externally) but it seems that it's more important to ask about you internal scars. Have you "dealt" with this problem so that it is no longer a "problem"? If so, then I would suggest some "thoughts" here. IF you are better in your mind, perhaps you can use your physical scars to help others. I know that may sound unusual, but here's my spin on the subject. If you have healed internally, you have the ability to provide support to some who have NOT healed internally. By this I mean, that by "showing" your scars, and by so doing, initiate some questions, you may be able to explain why you felt it was necessary to hurt yourself THEN, but WHY you do not now, and HOW you have overcome your issues. I know this sounds like an AA deal, but I always try and find a positive spin, if one can indeed be found. Let people ask, tell them what went on with you. I guess it comes to a question of "are you comfortable with yourself"? You seem to be concerned about what others may think about your scars, and clearly, it is human nature for people to look (if not stare) when something "different" pops up. Look them back in their eyes and smile at them. You will find two types of people, those who look away and those who may smile back. The ones who look away may be being "polite" by not wanting to stare, or they may be weak themselves, and feel an insecurity of their own pop up. Those who return your smile also might be of a different mind-set. Again, it might be a polite return to avoid that awkward feeling. However, you may find that these are the ones who are not judgemental. There you find the place of commonality where the chance for you to speak to them may present itself. You never know how that can go. It's interesting, most of us walk around "looking" well, but terribly scared internally. The casual passerby would never know or even notice, so on we walk still wounded. You have the chance to let your visible pains be a way to help others. I know this may all sound somewhat weird. But it was just a thought I had as I read your post.
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