Posted by Tabitha on March 5, 2003, at 1:51:05
In reply to Re: When you're 40 you're not as good looking?, posted by syringachalet on March 4, 2003, at 23:18:19
I like that pole vaulting over mouse turds thing. Can I use it?
Here's my 2c... attractiveness and age issues can change. When I was 26 I was hot for a 45 yr old guy, now that I'm 39.9 the guys in their 40s look old to me and I want the young-uns. It's just my own fears-- at 26 I felt immortal, so my guy's gray hair and wrinkles were exotic and sexy. Now signs of age remind me of my own aging so are yuck. I want to forget! Once I accept my own aging I expect to be happily hot for middle-aged and old dudes again.
And in the mean time there are a surprising number of young guys who if I'm not mistaken are giving off mutual attraction vibes to me. There's no need to generalize attractiveness -- forget the social stereotype (painful as it is for us middle-aged women) and look at the blessed diversity of reality.
And P.S. it's sad but true... I'm NOT as cute as I was in my 20s. Then again I'm more self-accepting so I wouldn't go back. It does no good to be beautiful if you still don't accept your imperfections. Self-acceptance is sexy, really it is, and us older folks tend to have more of it than the young.
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