Posted by likelife on February 22, 2003, at 1:22:26
In reply to Re: There was a time, posted by kara lynne on February 21, 2003, at 20:34:09
(The name comes from the title of a book, "Like Life" by Lorrie Moore--a collection of witty, sarcastic, sad, innocent, and way too knowledgable short stories.)
> Sometimes I feel like I'm just too broken to have friends; it takes to much energy to have to make a presentation.
I agree absolutely. Somehow I have gotten the idea in my head that I either have to tell someone everything or nothing (and of course these polarities exist in a hundred other areas of my life). Where is the happy medium?
I think social nuance is a skill learned over the lifetime. Or, at least I hope so; if this is the zenith of my ability, I'm afraid I'm in trouble. Being depressed adds another layer to be navigated through or around. People really don't understand, and it can feel like banging your head against the wall, trying to make them understand.
I also get tired of hearing "you're afraid of intimacy," especially since I have a hard time figuring out exactly what about it I'm afraid of. It does sound like a stock answer, and it lacks real meaning for me. (I put down my own therapist all the time too--though never really to her face.)
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