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jyl -justyourlaugh (or should I say justyourluck)!

Posted by bluedog on December 31, 2002, at 13:07:15

Jyl

You wrote the following:-

"i dontfeel like i belong in the"dr bob"
world.i made no friends.
everyone seemsto be so clever.
i never say the right things.
this will be my last post here.
good luck to you all...
watch out for those evil temtations tonight!
peace
jyl"

I think you are the perfect canditate for Dr Bob's world. I have never directed a post directly at you but from the posts you have made over the last month or so I have sensed that you are having a VERY, VERY difficult time of things. You should keep posting. I just read a study that reported that people who write down their problems via email or message boards etc etc actually recover faster from problems than those that bottle everything up inside.

I noticed over the last couple of months that you have made some posts that have received no responses. Believe me I notice these things and you know what I thought...... I thought "I'll bet jyl thinks no one cares about her" Is this what you mean when you say you feel you've made no friends?

I get exactly the same feeling of rejection when I post and know one responds. It HURTS. It really feels at that moment like you have no friends here. It's just that sometimes people honestly don't know what to say. It doesn't mean you have no friends here.

I also say lots of things that are not very clever. AND then I AGONISE over what others will think of my post. I will respond to a post and suddenly Dinah or Dreamerz or Robin David John or Tabitha or Phil etc etc etc will post something that is much cleverer or more supportive or insightful than what I wrote. My immediate reaction is that I usually will want to crawl under the nearest rock curled up in the foetal position in embarrassment at what I have written.

I constantly worry that I am not accepted here in Dr Bob's world and that I have no or very few friends here. I worry all the time that I say things from a male perspective that will make the girls here feel uncomfortable or unsafe!

Then suddenly, I will get a post from out of the blue from an unexpected source that will lift my spirits again. Just look at the responses you received regarding your intention to stop posting!!!!!!!

I think it's all boils down to the over-sensitive nature of the people that post here. But I've discovered that it's alot more supportive here than out in the real world so I keep coming back in an attempt to be accepted by this community even when I may feel I'm an outcast or being rejected.

I'll bet there are lots of posters out there that have similar feelings. AM I RIGHT PEOPLE?????

WARM regards in the hope that you won't desert us!

bluedog



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