Posted by Krysti on December 7, 2002, at 22:50:57
In reply to Re: Question about friendship - need opinions » Krysti, posted by ShelliR on December 7, 2002, at 22:36:13
Hi Shelli,
Yes, I guess that does make sense. I guess I was thinking not telling her would be taking the easy way out, but now you've offered a different perspective. I've always had the "fixing people" disorder, but some people don't want to be fixed. And I guess trying to fix people is a selfish thing, I'm probably doing it to make myself feel good like I'm doing the "right" thing. As Ted pointed out earlier, I'm sure she knows what her own problems are, she's just denying it to herself. And as you pointed out, although I hadn't thought of it that way, I would just be blaming her for not wanting to be friends with her anymore. I'm really glad I decided to post this. It's nice to get a different perspective on things.
I don't really know how I'm going to exactly handle it when/if she calls me again - it's kind of hard to say to someone "I don't want to be your friend anymore", but I will definitely keep what you guys have said in mind. I think I will probably just tell her I can't keep going on like this. My idea and her idea of a friendship is different. That's a good start anyway.
Thanks for your post : )
Krysti
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