Posted by Eddie Sylvano on October 31, 2002, at 9:42:36
In reply to Re: P.S.... » Eddie Sylvano, posted by Ç®ëëþý Tabitha on October 31, 2002, at 1:33:16
> I'm just trying to understand why all the stuff most people suggest doesn't seem to work for me, so I used your ideas as examples. I really did appreciate your post.
----------------------------No offense taken. I feel like I can relate to your complaints about the process. It seems like every relationship I'm in, my partner is dissapointed in my lower libido, takes it as proof that I don't love them, and things degrade. Should I have to deferr to my girlfriend's desires, and please her demands above my own? It's a tough call for me to make. The unique aspect of pairing off with people is that you're intimate with them. Something's expected there. My only complaint is what? Does it have to be constant, grunting sex, or can it be more relaxed nuzzling that sometimes builds to more? My first girlfriend wanted sex all day, every day, and I got pretty tired of it after a couple weeks. It became a chore (and lead to an unwanted pregnancy). To make things worse for me, I tend to not want contact with my girlfriend if she's being petty or critical, which leads to more criticism, and a vicious cycle, because the only thing that proves love is sex. Agh.
For me, as a guy, the thing is I feel different for being so. I'm supposed to want it all the time, and turn my head at every set of cleavage that bounces past me. It makes me feel like I'm defective or something (which wasn't a feeling discouraged by previous girlfriends).
So there's certainly merit to your ideas, from my standpoint. Being alone gives you tremendous freedom, and that's relaxing. Masturbating is reliable and enjoyable. I just eventually get a desire to touch and feel a cute girl, and the cycle continues.
poster:Eddie Sylvano
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