Posted by tabitha on July 28, 2002, at 18:40:25
In reply to Re: 3D world vs babble world » mair, posted by Dinah on July 28, 2002, at 14:53:10
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> But I generally assume that if someone doesn't respond, or if my post is a thread-killer (as it often is) that it isn't personal.Haha, thread-killers, good phrase. When I first started posting I got obsessed with the notion that my posts were more often than others, the last one in the thread. Yes, I was personally responsible for killing the conversation. Then I noticed, Duh!, there are dates on the posts, and I was tacking on a comment a week after the last reply, when everyone's attention had already moved on.
Also, it's just that we're conditioned to find it insulting or hurtful if someone doesn't answer in real life, but the protocol is a bit different here. People only answer if they want to. While that means you might not always get an answer, it also means that the answers you get are more likely to be meaningful, since people can pick and choose the conversations they want to join, and bow out at any time. I still fight the reaction of reading something terrible into it when I was the last person who posted, you know, "I said something terrible" or "so-and-so doesn't like me", etc etc.
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