Posted by shar on July 15, 2002, at 12:51:59
In reply to Is it just me?, posted by babyBella on July 14, 2002, at 16:20:28
I used to hate calling people on the phone when I was setting up surveys and things like that. I did a bit of cold-calling for ad sales for my sister's newspaper. It was very tough. The thing I learned from that was training is really crucial if you want to sell for a living. I do part-time retail now, my first foray into that area, and there's quite a bit about it that feels unethical to me, so I modify it to fit my values. I don't win awards, but I can live with myself.
If you can find another job that would feel better to you, I encourage you to do that.
About people not liking you. This is very dangerous territory to get into, assuming that people don't like you or are angry with you and that it is because of you. Age 19 is a great age to learn (1) that you can't read people's minds so you can't really know what they are thinking about you; (2) there will always be people around who are happy to rain on your parade, or be unfriendly, etc.--and who knows why? (3) the people who apparently dislike you simply don't "get" how valuable you are and what you have to offer, they are poor simpletons; and (4) for those who are unfriendly, a great big smile and a warm hello is good revenge.
I'm 50, and it took me well into my 40's to learn there is just no accounting for taste, and people can be fickle with their approval, and the MOST important thing is living in a way that is acceptable to YOU. Living by your values and what is important to you. Then, if people don't approve of your choices, so be it. You aren't there to live in the way THEY want you to, or in a way that makes THEM more comfortable.
If you try to please people, turning this way and that, ending up like a pretzel--there will be someone else who doesn't like your new style. It's a no win situation.
My second tidbit for living is, it's not so much about you being understood or understanding others, as it is about you being accepted and accepting others. That includes accepting yourself.
That's all for me.
Shar
> Lately I've been feeling really down. I take my meds reguarly but I feel like my life is falling apart. And I'm only 19! LOL I'm pretty sure that everyone at my new job hates me and further more I'm pretty bad at it. I have to call people on the phone everyday and try to get them to run ads with us. And it's really hard for me to do so I don't make much money for the company. And I feel like if I quit (even if I find a new job first) everyone will be really angry with me. Does anyone have any ideas on what I could do?
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