Posted by shar on July 12, 2002, at 3:37:19
In reply to Things are Falling Apart « illbeleavinnow, posted by Dr. Bob on July 11, 2002, at 9:44:39
Well, there is no doubt that the situation you are in is one of the most difficult people face. Relationships are hard, complex, confusing, and the loss of a relationship can lead to feelings like those you describe.
Unfortunately, overcoming the 'aftermath' of a loss takes time, because it is a process not a singular event. Initially you get hit with all these feelings, worries, concerns...and they only get easier, better or worked out over time. Time makes the pain ease up, will provide you with answers to your questions, bring clarity about what you want, and how you want to proceed.
I think it is especially true since this is the first time you've felt so serious about someone in an intimate way. I don't think it gets easier the more times we lose love, but we have a lot more information to go on...how to feel better and things like that.
Please keep posting, I'd like to know how you're doing.
Good luck,
Shar
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