Posted by Phil on July 7, 2002, at 9:18:15
In reply to Somebody PLEASE help me!!!, posted by Angel Girl on July 6, 2002, at 20:56:55
Angel Girl,
If your best friend or favorite person was going through exactly what you are going through, what advice would you give them? What do you think they would need to do?
Love is a verb, an action, not a feeling.Anyone is capable of giving love. If someone doesn't love you back that's their choice. Try to become the person you would like to meet. Write down the characteristics, in detail, of what kind of person you would like for a friend or a lover.
Maybe the people you lost weren't such good friends after all.Don't fall into the victim trap thinking everyone in the world has the answers but you don't. Have you spoken to your friend you just lost and how do you know you lost them? If you want them as a friend, tell them. Better yet, tell them to forget last night and invite them to lunch or a movie.
You do have some control over your life. You can make choices and you can get better.
If you feel suicidal, call 911. Be an advocate for yourself and be totally accountable for your actions. There ain't no shortcuts and there ain't no magic words that anybody can tell you.
Even in the gloomiest depression, keep a resevoir of hope.
poster:Phil
thread:26109
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