Posted by Angel Girl on July 5, 2002, at 15:46:38
In reply to what Lou and Judy said, posted by beardedlady on June 30, 2002, at 6:06:32
Bearded Lady
I'm very sorry to hear that you were subjected to this senseless traumatic experience. Emotional pain can be far worse than physical pain. I don't think there is any one right way to react to any trauma. Your mind will deal with it the best it knows how. Maybe in time your feelings will change. Like Judy, I would 'freeze'. I am unable to defend myself when my life or well being is threatened. I know this from experience. I can not yell or scream or even move. I am frozen in place and totally unable to move. Probably the worst way to react as that leaves me totally open with no defence without a rescuer.
You may feel numb now, but therapy may bring out other feelings. I understand your anger as well. I don't feel anger when faced with a trauma, I feel fear, a complete paralyzing fear. No matter how each of us reacts, it's normal. There is no right way or wrong way. I don't think you should question why you feel the way you do instead of how you 'think' you should feel.
I'm glad that your daughter was far enough behind to not have been involved in a physical way and her life not in danger. I'm very sorry that you have been subjected to this senseless act. Try not to force yourself to feel something that you don't. Therapy wil help you with this.
I hope that your vacation time does not get clouded with memories from this and you are able to relax and enjoy it. It doesn't sound like the 'ocean 'sh#$@' to me. It sounds absolutely wonderful.
Sending cyber hugs your way.
Angel Girl
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