Posted by IsoM on July 3, 2002, at 13:00:34
In reply to The move to a new city...., posted by janejj on July 2, 2002, at 16:12:02
Jane, I've moved 37 times in my life - sometimes just to another house in the same city or town, sometimes across the country. Most times, it wasn't due to choice. I'm sick of moving & never want to move again unless it's to a home I could own & not just rent.
It so depends on where you move. At one point, I moved to a small hicktown where there wasn't anyone I could relate to. My own personal life became rich with reading & growing a huge garden. I was also busy raising 3 young sons so between it all I was kept busy. But while I'm a loner, even I was lonely often.
If you're moving to a larger cosmopolitan city, visit the library, museums, art galleries, interesting shops (if that's your style) or whatever tickles your fancy. You're likely to find similar people there like you with similar interests. Look through the city's directory for clubs & societies for something that interests you. There's so many in large cities. Join one or two that look particularly interesting; that'll give you even closer one-on-one contact with people. (I know you wanted more original ideas than just clubs but it does work.)
How are you for striking up conversations with others? Let's say you've gone to some unique second hand store looking for an old interesting book, record, etc - someone else is looking in the same section & they appear nice. Could you ask something like "Have you found any books here before that you've liked? I'm fairly new here & was wondering if this store has a good selection. Is there any other good book stores around the city?" A nice person will use that as an opener to get going.
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