Posted by wendy b. on June 20, 2002, at 11:25:18
In reply to Relationships, posted by bookgurl99 on June 19, 2002, at 22:16:42
> Okay, I've been dating a perfectly nice girl for a year but I just can't seem to make myself commit. What's my problem? When I date a woman who's a complete jerk to me, I fall head over heels. But with my sweetheart, I don't feel many sparks.
BookGurl:
(Remember me? I'm the one who would have done the same thing with my million dollars, start an artist-writer colony, etc.)
I have the same problem with boys. Trying to deal w/ the fact lately that I choose people with whom it would have been impossible to stay with long-term. I guess that's part of the illness, also my very very weak self-esteem, why choose someone good? I don't deserve a decent life, so I choose these guys. And anybody who is really good, I declare "boring."
> I want a hottie. I feel like I could kiss every woman on the planet.
>
> What's wrong with me?You're a normal woman, please!
If you don't want to be with the woman you're with any more, you should tell her. If the spark's not there, she probably already knows that part. If you're just living together as friends, that would be ok, but there are sexual expectations, right?
As in the old Joni Mitchell song, from the Hejira album (I think):
"...but all I wanna do right now is -
find another lover..."It's ok, you'll figure it out. Go shoot some more photos. I'm so glad for you that you're taking such pleasure in it.
Tu es une artiste!
all best,
Wendy
poster:wendy b.
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