Posted by fi on June 9, 2002, at 12:56:31
In reply to Wasting life??, posted by fi on June 3, 2002, at 16:11:58
That’s a great bunch of replies- thanks to all!
And, Angel1, its really supportive knowing someone else understands- posts don’t need to include advice to be helpful. I hope that you will find some things which give you a bit of pleasure (they can be small things- scented baths, music, nice food, sitting in the sun?) And find some meds which suit you.
You’re right, Tabitha- being functional is the huge, crucial thing. I also only have some times I get into minding about it. Last weekend I had some very content times doing my gardening stuff (and dozing in the sun for one of the first times this summer).
Its probably partly a mid-life thing, like ‘normal’ people have too! And I suppose for anyone, self-acceptance is the key. I do usually avoid thinking about the past (and the future) as much as possible, too..
Dates and kids
I was always a disaster area date-wise, so its quite a relief not to be so driven about that now-more a regret it didn’t work out when I was younger. Tho it would be wonderful if (against the odds of past failures..) I did meet someone now. I would probably have had kids if I had found a decent stable partnership, but I’m on the old side for kids now, even if I met Mr Right tomorrow. And it could have been difficult for me to cope with kids – I appreciate the huge commitment they are.Something new
I’ve tried all sorts of activities in the past, but this is a good reminder that I haven’t tried anything in the last few months. The most recent was a local class for singing, but it turned out the tutor wanted to teach everyone how to read complicated music etc, rather than just have a hearty sing-song (which I was after). But there’s nothing to stop me singing along to the radio at home…And its true I don’t get fed up with life when busy at work, particularly when dealing with enquiries (tho I do get fed up with my employers at times!)
Pdoc/meds
Very good point to check I am as well as I can be. The Prozac seems to stop me getting clinically depressed. The ordinary pessimism/caution I see as just part of my personality, and don’t expect meds to help (and cant imagine my GP being interested in that level of wellbeing). But I haven’t actually discussed it with them for several years (had a therapist for off and on for years, but gave up on that a couple of years ago). So maybe good idea to get a review sometime.So thanks again, all!
Fi
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