Posted by Penny on May 31, 2002, at 9:20:21
In reply to hurting too much, posted by fiona on May 30, 2002, at 21:01:32
Fiona,
I agree with Fi. I am an overresponsible soul too, only when it comes to taking care of others, not myself. But the truth of the matter is, you have to take care of YOU first, even if it means letting the people you love go through their own hard times EVEN if you think you could have stopped it.
I've had a similar situation with my cousin and her son. Her son is BP and only 9 years old, and he was in and out of the hospital last year. Well, after getting overly involved in the whole situation (as I was the only one with the *knowledge* of how to handle things ... i.e., my cousin didn't want to learn what she needed to), I finally had to bow out. Just couldn't do it anymore. It was sending me into my own depression, making me have extreme suicidal thoughts, etc.
Granted, I'm still suffering from my ups and downs, but now I'm focused on getting myself better. And I still have a bit of guilt regarding the whole thing, as I have lost touch with my cousin and I don't know how her son is doing at the moment, but I had to decide that it was NOT MY PROBLEM. I have plenty of stuff to deal with on my own, and you do too.
Hope things work out. Please take care of yourself.
Penny
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