Posted by cmcdougall on May 2, 2002, at 15:19:29
In reply to Re: How do you have a career when yr depressed? » Automated Lady, posted by sid on May 2, 2002, at 14:47:31
Hello (and thanks for your post to me),
Getting the right pharmaceutical treatment can make a BIG difference. When the depression is under control, everything is so much easier.
I do have one bit of advice that may be helpful. If your career is going to require a lot of motivation, choose a job where you will be working under someone who expects only great things from you. I am TERRIBLE at self-motivating, but have been very successful in several different fields. This is why:
I am a people pleaser. I love making people happy. I cannot get enough of people thinking I'm wonderful. This is kind of sick in a way - Especially when I have put up w/ abuse to get the payoff! Its a foible I will work on forever! :')
Anyway, when someone else depends on me, I can do brilliant things! I hate to disappoint someone when I so desparately need their approval.
I can take care of someone else's s**t much better than I take care of my own. Owning my own business or working out of the home is a disaster for me. I thought I could do it, and learned a very expensive (both $$ and relationship-wise) lesson. I am having to sell my business ( a darling gift shop that I love) because I seem to find ANY excuse not to be there. There's nobody there to be disappointed in me, or to reprimand me.
Hell, I have to face the truth. I wouldn't even cook or do laundry if nobody was here to complain if it didn't get done. And I LIVE for getting compliments on my wonderful cooking and hot-starched clothes. That is really SICK. LOL LOL I actually cook powdered starch for my ironing. Aren't you impressed? I hope so, thats the reason I do it! :')
Sometimes I am amazed at how twisted I am... I am amused too. I have struggled for many, many years to get over the need for approval and believe it or not, have made great strides. I dumped my jerk of a husband, resolved never to work again for a high maintenance boss, and I try every day not to feel so needy.
Alas, I ramble. Bottom line, find a way to get help FROM the situation at work. Don't choose a situation that encourages your shortcomings.
Love and luck,
Carly
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