Posted by IsoM on May 1, 2002, at 11:58:30
In reply to the moment (or day) of truth , posted by Manda on April 30, 2002, at 21:47:55
Manda, I'm glad to see you're still here - your post that one day struck fear in me & I so wanted you to not give up. Don't now. It's the beginning of the healing process. It may be long but you will reach a point where you can look back in relief & gratitude that you didn't give up.
I'm like Penny, I prefer honesty. Now that doesn't just mean with your prof but with everyone else too. "I know how much it worries them to see me like this. If only they knew how much I don't tell them to protect them..." You need to be honest with everyone or you'll end up hurting them far more than you'll ever realise.
Start off with the pdoc to be totally honest. I have a tendency when I present to doctors to be very clinical & calm acting & they have trouble believing how bad I am. Try not to get into my trap. If you feel yourself cracking as you talk to your doctor, do so. Break down & cry - I don't mean histronics or anything phoney but don't try to hold back.
I'm fairly certain he will give you a note for your prof. And as Fi said, when you talk to your prof, be open & rather than just "beg for mercy", let him also know that you seriously WANT to do the work involved but just need a little leeway, timewise. I've had this mercy extended to me while at university & hope this man is as kind & reasonable as my profs were.
Post back, please & let us know how it works out, sweetie.
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