Psycho-Babble Social | for general support | Framed
This thread | Show all | Post follow-up | Start new thread | List of forums | Search | FAQ

Without sar » scared

Posted by kiddo on April 30, 2002, at 1:33:38

In reply to better without sar, don't you think?, posted by scared on April 29, 2002, at 23:15:13

Many of us on the boards here knew sar, some of us better than others; had conversations, and shared many things. The death of another person, regardless of how it came about, is very painful for the others they left behind.

Please read dr. bob's FAQ on civility, in fact, I cut and pasted them here.

Kiddo


*********************


http://dr-bob.org/babble/faq.html#civil

The dictionary definition is something like "conducive to civic harmony and welfare", but remember also the mission of this site, support and education, and the golden rule.

Please respect the views of others even if you think they're wrong. Please be sensitive to their feelings even if they hurt yours. Different points of view are fine, and in fact encouraged, but your freedom of speech is limited here. It can be therapeutic to express yourself, but this isn't necessarily the place.

Please don't be sarcastic, joke about death or suicide, suggest that anyone harm themselves or others, jump to conclusions about others or their experiences, post anything that others could take as accusatory, put others down, put pressure on others, use language that might offend others, exaggerate or overgeneralize -- et cetera.

Feedback tends to be more constructive if you put things in terms of what the other person might do better rather than what they did "wrong". And it tends to be more conducive to harmony to talk about how you feel than what someone else did, for example, to use an "I-statement" like "I feel put down by what you said" instead of a "you statement" like "you're so arrogant". But don't just try to disguise the latter as the former, as in "I feel Dr. Bob has gone overboard". :-)

It's fine to give others feedback as long as its constructive.

You can also count to 10. Or just keep your reaction to yourself. Or refer to these virtual pamphlets from university counseling centers on dealing with anger or stress.


Share
Tweet  

Thread

 

Post a new follow-up

Your message only Include above post


Notify the administrators

They will then review this post with the posting guidelines in mind.

To contact them about something other than this post, please use this form instead.

 

Start a new thread

 
Google
dr-bob.org www
Search options and examples
[amazon] for
in

This thread | Show all | Post follow-up | Start new thread | FAQ
Psycho-Babble Social | Framed

poster:kiddo thread:22869
URL: http://www.dr-bob.org/babble/social/20020422/msgs/22879.html