Posted by fi on April 11, 2002, at 10:23:23
In reply to this is difficult, posted by CtrlAlt n Del on April 10, 2002, at 12:34:56
Like the tone of the poem, even it dont understand it all!
I'm the same re the in memoriam thing. I think I'm feeling that it is such an important, and sort of formal, thing that its really crucial that I get it 'right', as I very much do want to commemorate Sar. But that makes me feel I cant do it 'right' enough, and I also start thinking I should be re-reading all her posts for the months since I joined..
And very aware that I didnt know her the way other people obviously did, and not wanting to cause offence to them by getting it 'wrong'.I will try and persuade myself to *relax* about it!
Meanwhile, the place I am happiest is my garden (after my bed!), and I have decided to plant some flowers there this year in her memory. I have decided they will be giant climbing nasturiums- bright, colourful, and robust even on poor soil. And annuals, so also have too short a life.
Maybe that will be the best I can do, personally. Action rather than words.
But I will allow myself to retain the choice to go back and do an 'in memorium' if/when I feel there is something suitable for me to say. And I am pleased that other people have managed it.
Fi
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