Posted by Penny on April 10, 2002, at 16:27:08
In reply to Re: reaction to suicide » Krazy Kat , posted by Fi on April 10, 2002, at 12:26:26
I had never known anyone to kill themselves (lucky & young, I guess) until last November, when my grandfather took his own life while my grandmother was out. And I was suicidal myself at the time. Instead of making me more suicidal, it had the opposite effect...I was able to see how painful it was to lose someone to suicide. Even though I could relate to how he was feeling at the time, I could also see the other side.
Of course, the worst part is that that feeling hasn't lasted forever. I still feel the pain of losing my grandfather to suicide...it was as though he was telling us all to f**k off in a way...but at the same time, I understand all too well that pain of feeling like it's never going to get better and that maybe, just maybe, after the pain passes, your family & friends will be better off without you. Or that they at least won't 'miss' anything by your not being alive.
Just how I feel. I sure wish Sar had beaten this thing. I wish everyone could.
Penny
> Just to say one thing about your last point: this has been like my other experiences of knowing someone who killed themselves- it causes a lot of shock and despair, like a blast from the centre in their family, on to their close friends, colleagues, and even distant friends and family.
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> None of us should *ever* think that suicide is a tidy or harmless thing for others. Or that we are burdensome and the world will be better off without us. I am *not* suggesting that Sarr did think these things- I didnt know her well enough to make any assumptions.
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> But I suspect some of us may, sometimes? So this can be an example to all of us that such a perception is completely inaccurate. Whether or not we act on suicidal feelings, any concern for others should definitely be on the side of staying alive.
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