Posted by Greg on April 1, 2002, at 17:37:23
In reply to But couldn't this be part of the problem?, posted by Dinah on March 31, 2002, at 21:19:15
I wish whole-heartedly that a lot of the "old timers would come back. I made friends out of that group of people that will be with me until the day that I die. I cherish those friendships. I don't want anyone to misunderstand me, this wasn't ever a perfect place, no online board is. In my time here there has almost always been a little something going on. Somebody trying to get under somebody else's skin. But for the most part early on it was an extremely supportive and helpful site. Even in misunderstandings someone would step forward with a sense of humor and try to put things in perspective and calm the situation down.
There will always be fights, misunderstandings and arguements. That's life. But in my opinion, rarely is there a need to purposely insult, attack or berate another person for expressing an opinion, nor is there any reason to express that opinion by insulting anyone else. I see that happen far too often now. I read the posts here a lot. I have people I always read people like you (BTW, I'm glad you're still here), KK, Sar and several of the others, and there have been many times I've sat down and written a post but didn't send it. I just knew in my mind that no matter how I worded it, someone would take offense. Don't get me wrong, I'm not afraid of a good fight, but more importantly I don't want to be part of this ever growing problem here.
I don't know what the answer is Dinah. But I do think I know what is missing now that we had a few years ago, a sense of family. I miss that a lot.
>I have heard over and over again from people who find the board to be getting a less supportive place that their response is to post less frequently or to leave altogether.
> But doesn't that create a vicious circle? The supportive posters leave because the board is less civil. The board becomes less civil because the supportive posters leave. Sheer numbers allow the tone of the board to shift.
> Might the answer be for the posters who are put off by the lack of civility to come back in droves?
> Just a thought.