Posted by trouble on March 15, 2002, at 0:52:00
In reply to trouble lili, posted by Rach on March 14, 2002, at 23:09:14
> trouble, thank you for your words, and I don't mind getting a reply. :)
>
> Lili, unfortunately these friends are ones that do have depression. That's how we met. But sometimes even they don't understand.
>Hey Rach,
I think you said it there, unfortunately sometimes the most depressed people are the hardest ones to talk to about being depressed. I've been perplexed by this myself, but I've come to the realization that people approach the unknown w/one of two attiudes, love or fear, love is an open mind and heart, and that's easy to spot, fear however takes many forms, but it always comes down to that, just ordinary fear.
Seeing the rejection of your pals in this light might make it a little easier to bear. You're out of their reach now, try not to take it personally.
You know that cliche about not casting your pearls before swine? It can be a handy guide when looking for friends. In my biased perspective, the best friends for lonesome, moody depressives tend to be bookish, arty mucic lovers who wear dark clothes and make snide comments.
And quiet, holistic, Plain Janes are often deep as wells, and twice as friendly, but they don't get much notice since they tend to be shrinking violets, but they're out there.I'm trying to say that mental illness makes us special, we have always been threatening for having too much intelligence, in fact, the practice of damaging the brains of the mentally ill as a form of treatment, which is still the practice, goes back to this notion, incredibly, that we're too smart...
One way we can put that superior brain power to our advantage is to be discriminating about who we befriend. Be particular, and look for people who are themselves particular, they're out there, and chances are they're looking for you too.
take care,
trouble
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