Posted by ST on January 2, 2002, at 17:42:51
In reply to Had a fun date but I'm feeling Neurotic!, posted by Roo on December 31, 2001, at 10:18:39
HI Roo,
I just read your post and boy is THAT a dilemma for us medicated folk. But you say something quite wise there:
> >he either accepts me the way I am or he doesn't
and I don't really have any control over that > >That is so true. I finally reached a point a little over four years ago when I figured that if someone was scared away by me on any level, then WHY on earth would I want to be with them? It sounds so simple, but was really difficult for me to grasp. Because I'm so complex (aren't we all?) and suffer bouts of depression (I'm actually bi polar) and my mental and emotional state plays such a huge role in my life, how could I not find someone who accepts me totally and completely?
I met someone I liked and we became friends. As soon as it looked like there was romance brewing, I told him what was up with me. I didn't hold back. So when he proceeded to "woo" me further, I was able to relax and not dwell and obsess and worry. He already knew and was pursuing me anyway!
My point is that if he can't handle you - ALL of you - then why the hell would you want to be with him? The fun is finding someone who isn't scared off.
So I'm still with that guy - over four years later. He's seen me through stretches of inconsolable depression and anxiety and times when I wanted to die. And he's still here. I joke sometimes and say: "Hey, I warned you!"
Good luck,
Sarah
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