Posted by nightlight on December 31, 2001, at 9:51:44
In reply to SEND HIM HERE, posted by Katey on December 30, 2001, at 22:38:00
Hi Katey,
That's a thought, but then, this wd. no longer be my 'safe haven'. He has seen me reading here lots of times, but we respect each othet's privacy, & he's never really read over my shoulder. And, I don't really want him to. But, I have mentioned the site to him and a couple of friends before, praising it for its' wealth of info.Funny thing, last nite, he began to soften up, kissed me on the cheek before taking our daughter out for a while. I didn't like it. I feel like he may be 'acting nicer' for her sake only, which is not totally uncommendable, but...it felt unnatural, and I have already distanced myself from him, emotionally.
Thanks for the advice~nightlight
> have him read some of the more desperate posts.
>
> >
> > Hi all
> > Sorry to yell, but I really need help. I am 45, have al;ways known s/t was 'wrong', but was not properly dx'd til this year. I have ADD, depression, anxiety disorder, a tad of OCD and some chronic pain problems (which are finally under control). The dep, etc is not under control, as yet, but improving.
> > Five yrs. ago I had my 1st child (surprise) at 40. Diagnosed w/3 hern'd discs & fibro. Mother got cancer, nursed her. She recuped partially, but dev'd Alzheimer's. Dad died last year . Hubby, daughter & I moved in w/Mom. I nursed her until her death late last April. I then, spiralled into a terrible depression. Worse than ever. Couldn't leave the sofa for hours on end, didn't bathe reg'ly, lost 25 lbs. No A-d's had ever worked for me. I was practically comatose w/grief & dep., plus a bad pain flare.
> > Finally got pain under control, found yet another therapist, who referred me to a p-doc who dx'd ADD & and rx'd Adderall and an A-D. I'm not out of the woods yet, but I have hope. I am working part-time (!) and can get out of bed every morning. But, I am FAR from recovered.
> >
> > Yesterday, hub tells me, he does not believe I am that ill, that this (+ grief) cd,. not make me so non-functional. And, after listening to 'excuses' for 5 yrs., he thinks my time is up. I have not progressed enough, I am not so sick, not really trying.
> >
> > I want a book, or a website that explains what depression REALLY
> > does to someone, how incapacitating TRD really is.
> >
> > CAN ANYBODY HELP ME???
> >
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