Posted by Marie1 on December 3, 2001, at 11:39:13
In reply to Re: Where are you Marie1, posted by Mair on December 2, 2001, at 14:16:22
Hi Mair,
Really, sounds like we have a lot in common. I have 2 daughters - 17 & 11. I can't buy clothes for my 17 year old either. She's a somewhat moody, stubborn, opinionated kid. Always has been. When I tried to dress her for pre-school, it was a battle every morning and I finally gave up. I like to buy her clothes from Abercrombie & Fitch - she hates them and refuses to wear them. But if she finds something EXACTLY THE SAME from, say, Goodwill, she loves it. This kid is gifted; she was tested at 160 in 2nd grade. But she is her own worst enemy. She's barely graduating from high school this year, she pierced her tongue, took off to New Orleans for a week with some friends for a little "vacation" (without permission, of course).
I used to think my 11 yr. old was the opposite of her sister, but she's getting moodier too. At least she'll still wear the clothes I buy her, although she still prefers toys.
I'm recently unemployed, so I'm at home through this season, which definitely makes it easier. Do you mind telling me what you do?Marie
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> Marie - I felt bad about my post last night after I wrote it because it sounded in retrospect like just so much whining. I don't drink alot because I can't hold my liquour at all, particularly with AD meds, but I did have some wine last night.
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> I think my kids sound older than yours. Mine are teenagers, and mostly want clothing that they don't really need. It's hard to buy for them because when I'm shopping with them and pick something out for them to try on it's invariably "gross" or "ugly." It undermines any confidence I might have to pick something out they'll like. My husband was remarking the other day that he missed buying toys (ie playing with them himself). I think toys are a little easier than clothes although maybe it's just the grass is greener syndrome.
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> That's awful about your brother. I have 4 siblings and have been amazingly untouched by the horror of premature death. My brothers both float out a day or 2 before xmas and get whatever they need to for their wives. They make it seem so simple. My sisters are very organized, packages are beautifully wrapped and anything mailed actually arrives before Xmas. They do all the travelliing and seemingly with less stress than I have just getting my house ready, although i know it probably stresses them out too in different ways.
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> I think you have to find ways not to care as much if someone seems disappointed.
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> BTW - I love living out in the country usually, but my spouse is defiinitely holding out for the day when he, too, can live on the peripheral edge of a golf course.
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> How old are your children?
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> Mair
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