Posted by susan C on November 26, 2001, at 19:32:22
In reply to How do expert 'babblers' cope with our distance?, posted by Fi on November 26, 2001, at 16:36:08
I have not been here long, and know what you mean about worrying about someone.
For me, every time I post, I try to be as clear and as direct and as supportive (if that is not contradictory 8;o) as I can. I know I am not physically able to intervene. Even if I was sitting next to the person, I am not a doctor. It is not my 'job', my 'responsibility'to intervene.
I can only hope that the person who 'disappears' has gained something.
I also ponder at times, drdashbobs statistics that most people who post here, post only once...I don't know what that means, but it does cause me to pause and contemplate.
Also, another little bit of inconsequential information: 20% of the population moves every year. We are a very nomatic country, the USA.
So, if you find someone who appears here, it may or maynot mean anything when they donot reappear.
You, or I, or they, have given ,or taken, what we could, when we could.
Philosophical mouse
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> I'm new to this. It obviously absolutely right that people share how they are feeling, particularly when its really dire. And clear that we have responsibility for ourselves and our actions, not for other people and what they decide to do. But how do the rest of you cope with not knowing what's happening, when you are concerned about someone?
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> For example, I'm been worrying about Cass all day, and very much hope she is still with us. It would be great to hear from her, but I realise that is partly a selfish need to hear how she is getting on. If we don't hear from her, she may have acted on her suicidal ideas- but we would never hear this definitely. No messages could also mean she has gone into hospital, and we might or might not hear from her again.
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> I expect this will have happened before, and would stress again I think its good that people do share. How do the rest of you handle it?
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> Fi
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