Posted by kiddo on November 14, 2001, at 23:21:49
In reply to Suggestions Requested: What To Do With Your Mother, posted by susan C on November 14, 2001, at 13:26:52
I don't know when she's coming, and if I'm too late to respond but I've had success pretending like I'm listening (even if it's going in one ear and out the other) and afterwards say something like "hmmm, that doesn't sound like a bad idea, I'll have to check it out with my doctor." She gets to offer her advise, doing the motherly thing, and feels like she's offering something helpful. You are the good daughter, considering her moms input, making her feel better, and hopefully she'll let it go.
Of course it could backfire, thinking she could only do better by keeping up the good work she's started :-)
> What do you do with your mother when she comes to visit (she is staying in a nearby motel that has shuttle service)?
> And you, as daughter, do not go out, do not drive, have a routine of having quiet alone days.
> That she knows you deal with Bipolar 2, is a retired psych nurse administrator (82) and wanted to go to pdoc appt to 'learn more' about illness. (i sent her a book)
> When, as daughter you are worried she will do what she had done before, which is judge, or, try to come up with shoulds, coulds, and ask questions or talk or talk about siblings.
> any suggestions would be appreciated.
> a mouse wanting to go hide
> susan C