Posted by paxvox on October 17, 2001, at 15:46:15
In reply to Confused, posted by Willow on October 16, 2001, at 23:07:28
Ah gentle Willow,
From my own humble experience I say thus:
In order to deal with the rest of life's issues, we have to be as healthy ourselves as we can be. There is no sense in you being unhealthy along with your family issues on top.
You must think of what YOU feel like first. This may sound selfish, but make it a physical analogy;
how can I teach my child to walk if my own legs are broken?I used to let myself fall into that trap of feeling that I had to maintain my family's happiness and security above all else. However, if I am not 100% (or at least as good as I can be) how can I be even 50% effective in attaining that goal?
It took me quite some time to embrace this concept, but I have concluded I have to be well in order to be of best service to my family.
It is not really a difficult thing to do if you understand your goal remains to interact the best with your family.
How well does a wilting willow stand up to the storm winds? Grasp the support of your roots, hold on, fix yourself first, the rest will come in time.
PAX
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