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Re: Lonely in San Diego » PuraVida

Posted by Glenn Fagelson on May 19, 2001, at 15:43:29

In reply to Re: Lonely in San Diego » Glenn Fagelson, posted by PuraVida on May 19, 2001, at 1:37:02

> Hi Glenn,
>
> How can you be a good conversationalist, but not have the skills for small talk? :) Maybe you are like me, and at times, small talk seems really stupid, boring - pointless? Sometimes I'm out with friends and get frustrated with the "I'm trying to impress everyone with how cultured/well off/sexual/whatever I am" conversation. I end up feeling so lonely, and just generally pissed off that I'm not with people who are a bit deeper and more self aware. We especially have this problem in San Diego, though I don't think it is as bad as in OC/LA! But, it is not an insolvable problem - I notice when I'm more depressed/needing approval, etc that this is when I get down about other peoples seemingly shallowness. And, I have found a lot of great people here, as well...
>
> Anyhow, I'm toying with the idea of getting a support group together in San Diego. I don't want to exclude anyone, but at the same time I'd really like to get a group together of potential friends who can grow together and share good things - those of us that have chronic tendencies toward depression, are on meds, and are just trying to keep out of that hole. People that, like you, are open to doing whatever it takes to get better. I know sometimes this is not an easy thing, and I may be putting my foot in my mouth...I don't want to exclude, but I would want this group to be a place to go to get enthused and motivated, not drained by other peoples problems. Having said that, it wouldn't be taboo to talk about challenges, it's just that the focus would be on SOLVING those problems....like I siad, foot in mouth?
>
> Anyhow, I'm in San Diego, and despite having tons and tons of "friends" I feel lonely often, especially when I'm with them (??) And lets not talk about motivation...! Mine is at an all time low...or was, before I got out of bed and got on-line today...
>
> If you'd like, email me at puravidagal@yahoo.com (I think!) and, if you want, put you phone # and I'll call you (let me know what time frames are appropriate - I'm a night owl myself...
>
> Good luck Glenn,
>
> Liz

Dear Liz,
I sent you an e-mail, but it did not go through. Are you sure that you gave me your right
e-mail address?
Glenn
>
> > I have been really feeling down. I have so much trouble getting motivated when I am depressed. I
> > long for companionship, but the more I look for it;
> > the more it eludes me. I guess it is like chasing
> > after my own shadow. I still see a psychiatrist for
> > medications, but for the past few months I have been
> > involved in alternative medicine in order to cure
> > my depression. Hypnosis has really been helping me,
> > but because I have been depressed since childhood, my
> > social skills are not as great as others. Don't get
> > me wrong; I am a very good conversationalist; I just
> > do not seem to have the skills for small talk.
> > Tonight, I thought about psycho-social babble. So... if anyone wants to talk, I'm here.
> > Thanks, Glenn
> >


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